I have been so wrong all my life. Love is not about loving what is beautiful, perfect and pleasant. Love is being part of others. To die if they die. Loving them as we love ourselves. To feel their pain as ours. To love is to give.
Narcissistic individuals often engage in behaviors that are characterized as “false love” or “narcissistic love bombing.” This involves showering the person with excessive attention, affection, and flattery in order to win their trust and admiration. The narcissistic individual may also manipulate and exploit the person to fulfill their own needs and desires.
However, this “love” is often superficial and lacks genuine empathy and care for the other person’s well-being. The narcissistic individual may only express love and affection when it serves their own interests, and may withdraw or become abusive when the person does not meet their expectations or fulfill their needs.
This type of false love can be damaging and hurtful, as it can lead the person to believe that they are loved and valued, only to be discarded or mistreated when they are no longer useful to the narcissistic individual. It can also make it difficult for the person to trust and form healthy relationships in the future.
If you have experienced false love or narcissistic love bombing, it can be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you process your experiences and develop a healthier and more realistic understanding of love. It may also be beneficial to distance yourself from the narcissistic individual and focus on rebuilding your self-esteem and establishing healthy boundaries in your relationships.