Idealization

Someone who has been in a love relationship may recall those early sentiments of excitement and satisfaction when they meet someone new. For instance, did you experience a sensation of delight when you began dating your partner? This occurs fairly regularly. In fact, it’s generally referred to as the honeymoon time in relationships for a reason.

However, in the narcissistic abuse cycle, things escalate to a whole new level. A narcissist would idealize their new connection and set them on a pedestal. The fact that they feel they’ve uncovered the “right” one goes way beyond that (although that is part of it) (although that is part of it). Rather, they think they have found perfection, and so, they spend their sentiments on their new partner.

For the one on the receiving end, this might feel fantastic at first. However, it may quickly become overbearing.

In this phase, the narcissist uplifts their spouse with heaps of love and devotion while they make themselves appear better than they are. “Love bombing” is the word for this stage.

What you may not understand is that they are examining you during this time. The narcissist is collecting data and promising protection while you feel confident enough to divulge secrets that will be afterwards utilized as artillery against you. You may acquire strong attachments for this person sooner than in past partnerships. The narcissist seems to be the perfect mate.

Summary

A narcissist would idealize their new connection and set them on a pedestal. “Love bombing” is the word for this stage. The narcissist is examining you while you feel confident enough to divulge secrets that will be afterwards utilized as artillery against you.